JAMES 1:19-20

So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God

Dealing with Abuse is not that easy for many people. People endure in quiet hoping things will change, but it seldom does when they don't "fight" back or seek help. Here are a few ways we can all deal with abuse.. 

1. Walk away/Separate - These may be difficult for children to do as it may be construed as disrespect and further infuriate the abuser, but between spouses or coequals, one should walk away, and give the other some time to cool off. When the nature of abuse is inflicting physical harm, it's best to separate until the abuser gets help or show real signs of change. 

2. Report the abuse - Don't die silently in the name of the children where your husband is knocking your head against the wall, putting a knife to you throat or turning you into a punching bag. Don't be ashamed of letting people know what's going on in your home or life. Reporting shows you love the person and want help for them. 

3. Seek Counseling - Most abusers are often not emotionally stable, both the abuser and the one being abused must seek both professional and spiritual counseling. 

4. Talk to God about it - He is master of these issues. Only He can soften the hardest of hearts and turn a hopeless situation into a fruitful situation.


Father, thank you for our spouses and families, let your love and peace abide with us always in Jesus name.